When the Man is Overlooked

This week is national infertility awareness week. I may as well get a blog done before Peyton wakes up from her nap! She’s been sleeping pretty well while we have been away. I think she’s going through a major growth spurt because she won’t stop eating 😣

I wanted to get a blog out about this because it’s important to raise awareness. If we continue to have the conversation, more people will understand and be a little more sensitive about it. People make comments that come off as rude, intrusive, or just plain ignorant and that’s where raising awareness comes in.

Many people that Aaron and I have talked about our struggles with initially assume I am the infertile one. I don’t take offense to it but it just goes to show that there is a conversation to be had. Infertility isn’t gender specific. It knows no boundaries. In up to 50% of couples with infertility, there is a male factor involved. That is pretty significant and the numbers are rising. I truly believe humanity is doing something wrong.

Male factor infertility comes in a few different forms. Sperm count is the number of sperm a man has. Sperm motility is the number of sperm that are moving in a forward motion and sperm morphology is the shape of the sperm. All of which can have defects of some sort. Men can have retrograde ejaculation, a hormone imbalance, erectile dysfunction, or a varicocele (an enlarged vein) in their scrotum. All of those things could play a factor in a man’s fertility. It could also just be idiopathic meaning doctors can not find a cause (that’s what we have).

People who struggle with infertility don’t want sympathy. They don’t want your intrusive questions about when they will have a baby or insensitive comments. They want empathy, compassion and understanding. You really don’t know what people are struggling with. Chances are, you know a couple who is having difficulties conceiving. It’s a tough road to be on for both the man and the woman. Women aren’t the only ones who go through the emotions of infertility, our men are here too!

No one deserves to go through infertility, but Aaron is the last person who would. It was extremely hard in the beginning of our journey but he grew to understand that it isn’t something he has done wrong. It is something that life has thrown at us and he handles it better than I could have ever imagined. Fate granted us a miracle via IUI, our daughter. She completed our family and she is everything we have ever hoped and dreamed for. We understand that we are one of the lucky ones. Many people never get to conceive a child. We are blessed and grateful. We like to think our story can give someone, somewhere an ounce of hope.

We are also here for anyone who wants to share their journey, ask questions about male factor infertility, or anything to do with infertility itself. Or if you just need to vent that’s okay too 😉

To read our infertility story click here: https://thetrieflertribe.com/2017/01/28/coming-out-of-the-closet/

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